Do you crave space?
When it comes to homes, luxury, apparently, isn’t just about having your own vanity. It’s about having separate bedrooms and walk-in closets, too. At least that’s what my friend Catharine and I learned last Thursday night as we toured luxury homes, thanks to Midwest Home Magazine.
Our first thought: That’s odd. Why would you sleep separately? Then we considered the possibilities. No shared covers. No snooze button repeatedly hit. No sounds that weren’t yours, like book pages turning or a rumbling snore.
Because all of us crave a safe place, and a place isn’t always safe when another inhabits it. It’s the small things that can unnerve you after a hectic day: Where did he move my car keys? Why did she leave her shoes where I can trip?
Living together can be stressful. Matt and I joke about building townhouses on our new lot that are connected by a sky way for our kids to pass between us. We’d each have a sanctuary then, our version of couples’ therapy.
What do you think? Does space help create intimacy? Or with space do you lose intimacy?
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I think its a little bit of both… being close does create intimacy..but there is such a thing as too close… each of us need our personal space… a little corner we can call ours… maybe not the whole time..but just some part of the day….
and absence does make the heart grow fonder….
so a little space and the couple can come back refreshed…
In our case, a bit of space helps a lot. After years of apartment-dwelling, we finally got a spare room with our first house, which allowed my husband his own workspace. He’s neat; I’m not. His files and books are organized; my yarns, fabrics and cookbooks are strewn about (organized in their own tangled way!) One wall can do wonders for matrimonial harmony!
It totally depends on the marriage and different levels of space will be better for different people. My husband and I have been married for 10 years and sleep at the same time so seldom it’s a treat every time it happens. <3 We share a home office, but it’s big and all of his stuff is on his side and my stuff on my side so we don’t lose anything!
I simply can not imagine my husband not by side at night! But I can tell you that he has his space, it’s called a garage!! He does wood working out there, works on the cars, watches football, etc!!