Sacrifices
While he traveled, I mulled over the sacrifices we make, both seen and unseen, for our children and for our marriage. And I wondered, does he give up enough? Do I give up too much?
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Ooh, been down that guilt-ridden road before. Can’t say it’s a good one, and the rest stops are filthy…
I think we all have these questions, especially Moms and Dads who stay or work from home while raising the little ones. Honestly the more I ask myself this question, the angrier I get, so I try not to anymore. While he’s working (putting his life on the line every night), I try to remember that I wouldn’t want to walk in his shoes either. Being a husband, father, and being pulled away from your family for work is hard.
My husband is away right now too, working. Eight hours away. It will be three weeks before I see him again, which is the longest we’ve ever been apart. I think both sides sacrifice a lot. Sure, it feels like we are sacrificing more, but we aren’t strapped with the daily burden of providing financially for our whole family. We also have the benefit of seeing our children every day. I know my husband misses me and the kids so much, and it hits him hard to not be around us every day. I had to convince him that they hadn’t grown THAT much and hadn’t forgotten him or had a laundry list of milestones while he was gone, etc. It’s just as hard for the husbands I think.
I found your blog on blogfrog! We have three kids too and are in the process of adopting twins from Ethiopia along with being in the beginning stages of building a home large enough to fit us all! I look forward to following along – maybe we can keep each other sane during the process that lies ahead for both of us!
Blessings.
j
http://www.gfinkfamily.blogspot.com
Beneath the Acacia Tree
As parents it is all about sacrifice isn’t it?! As moms we always feel like we give up too much, and wonder if our husbands even know what that’s like. But, I have no idea what its like to carry the burden of being a Spiritual leader, husband and father…only he does.
I think I’ve asked that question too. I do know that my son is worth all the time in the world at two. He will only be two once.
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So many times I have asked myself the same question? Unfortunately, I don’t have the answers, probably never will…It’s best to discuss it though…I’ve found personally that holding it all in, doesn’t result well! Take Care!!
When my kids were young, I was a stay-at-home mom so naturally the majority of the parenting fell on my shoulders. My husband worked long hours running his own business which involved a lot of travel. Interestingly, now that our sons are teenagers (19 & 17), my husband spends more time with them on the golf course etc. I’m running my own business now too so the laundry and grocery shopping has also fallen on my husband’s shoulders. And yes, he is still working full time. It’s a crazy life but somehow we make it work!
It’s not a matter of comparing yourself to him. That just takes you down a nasty resentment-filled trip. Today I was just talking to my husband about how I resent that on his days off I don’t get to do what I planned to get done because he isn’t sacrificing for me like I sacrifice for him.
When you feel resentful, it’s good to take those shoes off and slip into your slippers of thankfulness and list the things for which you have to be thankful.
I would try to avoid that line of thought. It will only lead you down the road to resentment. Hard to come back from there.
You both are willing to make sacrifices and that’s good enough. Not everyone out there would.
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Hello stopping in to check out your blog from buddy notes on blogfrog. Enjoying your site and will stop back soon
Following.
(yes, I’m THIS far behind in my reader…)
Every time you post – It’s like you are taking the words right out of my very own mouth…
How often have I sat down and thought…how *fair* is this give and take?
::sigh::